Nobody makes it through their lives without losing at least one person they were close to. Throughout my own lifetime I have lost many. 2011 was an especially hard year starting in January with the passing of my mother-in-law and then in March with the passing of my first cousin. It seemed like just about every month, either I knew someone personally that had passed or knew of someone that had passed. Back in July of 2011, when I started this blog, I wanted a way to get some of my feelings out about what I was going through. I would have been happy if one person read my blog and got some kind of comfort from the words that I had wrote. When I was a teen, I did have one of those diaries with the little lock on it. For a little while I wrote in it, but it felt more like a chore, something I had to do. My blog on the other hand, is something I look forward to doing. I have found an enormous amount of comfort in writing down what I have on my mind. My father-in-law was one of the kindest, sweetest men that ever walked this earth. When he would visit us or we would visit him, he and I would sit around the kitchen table and chat. If I got him going on a topic, I would tease him that he was on his "soapbox." Next month will be seven years that he has been gone. He would have gotten a kick out of me doing my blog, because I can kind of get up on my "soapbox" and talk about the things that are important to me. In a few days, it will be my six-month anniversary of my association with the parenting website, MomsEveryday.com. I love to read what other moms (and dads) have written about their experiences with their children. My fellow bloggers and I all share the same thing, we write from the heart and write from our experiences. How do you find comfort when you're going through a tough time? Remember if you're feeling a certain way there is at least one other person out there that feels the same way.
When Dominic was diagnosed with Autism at 2 1/2, I went to our local library and took out every book I could find about Autism. Sometimes I would bring back 20 books. This was 2006, so a lot of the information was very "dated." I guess I was looking for a book that would tell me what I should do next, like a "manual." Autism doesn't quite work that way! The saying is, " if you know one person with Autism, you know one person with Autism." Every mom to an individual with Autism follows their own "path." I think as moms, we judge ourselves much harder than anyone else does. I was 41 when I had Dominic. Did he get the diagnosis of Autism because I was an older mom? because I drank a lot of pop? I could sit and think about that every minute of every day. I am pretty integrated into the Autism community around Lansing and have told more than one person that it took me about two weeks to come to terms with Dominic's diagnosis. It is so incredib...
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