I had to leave my own family this week to help my mom recover from some surgery. This is the third time this year that I have had to leave the hubby in charge of running the household in my absence. I am so detailed oriented that I spent almost 2 hours typing up a single spaced 2-page "itinerary" for him to follow before I left. When I was typing it up before I left he was like, "we don't need that, we'll be fine!" I have an incredible support system of friends that help take care of my husband and kids when I'm gone and make it possible for me to be able to leave. One of my friends is making my family a meal to enjoy, another mom said, "I've got your back." Other friends have sent e-mails, letting me know that they are thinking of me. I've always been this person that when people have offered to help I would always say, "no, that's okay, I have it covered." As I've reached the ripe old age of 48, I've realized that you do need other moms to help you. I always thought that I could do it all. As my own parents age, I know that I will be needed more and I want to be able to help them. They helped raise me, I want to be there to help them when they need me. I guess this is what is called the "Sandwich Generation." I've heard that term before. It is kind of accurate, you're "in between" two families the way a filling is in between two pieces of bread. I'm a mom that is raising children and also helping my parents at the same time. I helped my hubby with his parents, he was an only child. I watched him take care of both of his parents, I feel extremely lucky that I got to know my in-laws so well. My father-in-law has been gone more than 6 years now and my mother-in-law just since January. I still miss them a lot. So many of my friends my age are part of that "sandwich." A lot of people are living longer, my grandfather lived to over 90, my grandmother was 101! I feel blessed that I still have both of my parents. I am getting to know them on a totally different level than when I was growing up, though I still can't call my dad by his first name! I thought that when I became an adult I could that. My stepson likes to try and call his dad by his first name, even my daughter and son try. But, he doesn't like it either :) I know that I can't predict what the future will hold. Nobody can. My goal for the future is to try and be the best wife, mother, stepmother, daughter, sister, niece, aunt, cousin and friend that I can be!
We are heading towards 600 orders for Dominic's business. Since our long-term goal for Baked Goods By Dominic is having a "brick-and-mortar" and hire those with disabilities, it is essential and imperative that I continue to teach him all parts of the business. Since I prompted Dominic for so many years for speech, he has become "prompt dependent." What that essentially means is that he will look at me for a prompt, like, "what do you do next?" I do that one a lot. Dominic has been going to a private speech therapist for over ten years and she reminds me often that Dominic usually will know the answer, if I am patient and wait for him. That has been a very hard habit to break! Dominic has an incredible memory, so I put it to the test this morning. I didn't write out the steps, I wanted to see how much he could do completely on his own. We have a customer picking up his order today, but the only thing that had been done is putting the cookies into t...
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