Wednesday, January 18, 2012
I conducted a little experiment over the holidays. My daughter and I were at a ballet performance and were sitting at the very end of a row. For people to get to their seats, they had to go past us. I was silently counting in my head how many people said "excuse me" to my daughter or I as they made their way in and out of their seats. Let's just say I could count on one hand. I wonder sometimes if being polite are manners some people need to relearn. One thing I have taught my kids from a very young age is to say please and thank you. I don't have too many pet peeves, but one of them is when I hold the door open for someone and they kind of blow past me without a nod of the head, a smile or a thank you! I'm so tempted to say, "you're welcome!" and at times I have. I don't hold open doors because I'm requiring a thank you, but it would be nice to at least be acknowledged. At my local library a few months ago, I held the door open for a lady coming and going, she gave no acknowledgement whatsoever that I did it once, much less twice!!! When I go anywhere, a restaurant, grocery store, wherever, I always say please and thank you to people that wait on me. My manners were drilled into me when I was growing up. We were taught to say please and thank you and to respect your elders. When eating, keep your elbows off the table and your napkin in your lap. One of my favorite columns to read in the paper is "Miss Manners." She dispenses advice to people on how to handle etiquette "issues." That column makes for some pretty good reading. In my opinion, good manners don't come naturally, they have to be taught!