I am one of those people that likes to have things planned out way in advance. I was already bugging the salespeople at OfficeMax during the summer when the 2014 big wall calendars would be available to buy! Due to some unforeseen circumstances, I ended up doing all of my Christmas shopping for my husband, Lauren and Dominic on December 23rd and 24th this year. I don't remember doing it that late, EVER. I am not a big shopper. One time, when my stepson was younger and he was visiting us, he told me he wanted to go to our local mall. I was like, "why, did you forget something?" He said he just wanted to walk around and not necessarily buy anything. It kind of blew my mind. I only go shopping if I specifically need something, other than that, I don't really go out shopping unless it's for groceries. On December 24th, I only had a few hours alone to myself to finish the shopping that didn't get done on the 23rd. I decided to go to the Meijer, where I could get a few groceries that we needed, plus pick up a few presents. I was anticipating people running frantically around all over the place. It wasn't anything like that at all. It was pretty calm, we were all in the same last minute shopping "boat." I found a line with only a few people in it. The lady in front of me was rummaging through her cart. She got out of line, so I moved my cart up. About 30 seconds later, I heard a voice saying, "I didn't get the items I thought I needed, do you mind if I get back in line?" She only had about ten items, so I said, "okay, sure, go ahead." About another 30 seconds later, I heard two ladies talking behind me. One was at least about 80 and the other was probably her daughter, like in her 60's. The older lady was holding onto the younger gal's arm, I think for support. They were only buying one item, so I told them to go ahead of me. They stood there about 10 seconds and then the lady who had gotten out of line and then got back in line, let the two ladies go ahead of her. When the two older gals left, the lady in front of me looked back at me with a knowing smile. I smiled back. Who knows if we'll ever see those older ladies again, but I'm sure they'll remember that we let them go in front of us in the line. Now, that's what I call - paying it forward - holiday style!
When Dominic was diagnosed with Autism at 2 1/2, I went to our local library and took out every book I could find about Autism. Sometimes I would bring back 20 books. This was 2006, so a lot of the information was very "dated." I guess I was looking for a book that would tell me what I should do next, like a "manual." Autism doesn't quite work that way! The saying is, " if you know one person with Autism, you know one person with Autism." Every mom to an individual with Autism follows their own "path." I think as moms, we judge ourselves much harder than anyone else does. I was 41 when I had Dominic. Did he get the diagnosis of Autism because I was an older mom? because I drank a lot of pop? I could sit and think about that every minute of every day. I am pretty integrated into the Autism community around Lansing and have told more than one person that it took me about two weeks to come to terms with Dominic's diagnosis. It is so incredib...
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