How the Questions Have Changed!!

When Lauren was a baby, the questions I got the most often were - are you breastfeeding or bottlefeeding? are you using cloth or plastic diapers? These days, the questions are - which college is Lauren thinking of going to? and, what is she interested in studying?? I think the questions were easier to answer when she was a baby :) I had someone as recently as last night ask me the college question. It feels like it was just yesterday that the hubby was giving her a bottle.

Gone are the days of diapers, pacifiers and taking naps together:

Since starting her junior year, Lauren has had loads of homework almost every night and stays up late getting it all done. I have told her having all that homework while balancing other activities, friends and sports is a preview of college :) Lauren's choices of colleges and courses of study have changed a handful of times. At one time, she wanted to go to college in California because it's much warmer than here where we live in the Midwest. Then, it was a college about an hour away. Most recently, her college of choice is the one ten minutes from our house. Where we live there are many in-state schools that are great (and affordable). Next summer, we will be touring college campuses and getting her senior portraits done. Time seems to be going by at warp speed lately - I wish it would slow down just a little and let me catch up :) Enjoy every day and cherish the time with your kids, they grow up in a blink of an eye!!

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