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The First 24 Hours


Well, it's been 24 hours since we dropped our one and only daughter off at college. When I was touching base with her this morning and was asking Dominic if he wanted to tell her anything, his response was, "tell Lauren to get up!" He was her "back-up" alarm clock when she would oversleep :)  I have asked him a handful of times throughout the day where she is and he keeps telling me, "Lauren's room!"  When we were eating lunch with Lauren yesterday, I pulled out a piece of paper and a pen and helped Dominic compose a note to her. Somehow, I forgot to give it to her before we left.


When we were saying good-bye to Lauren in her room, the hubby said, "group hug!'  He has asked me a handful of times since yesterday, "I wonder how she is doing?"


Today, after lunch, I fell asleep and took a nap. I think it was a delayed reaction to all the moving yesterday. Lauren lives on the fourth floor of her dorm and there is no elevator. I don't think she'll need to join the gym, she'll get plenty of exercise going up and down those stairs! I am already starting a box of things for her to take back to school when she comes home for Labor Day weekend, starting with a new lamp. Evidently, she and I put the wrong wattage in the lamp she brought to college, because it "melted." Yikes! Just a few minutes ago, Dominic unprompted said, "La-La." I said, "where is she?" He said, "college." I know that it is going to be hard for Lauren and Dominic to be separated.  Tuesday night, I made her one of her favorite meals and Dominic helped me make, "frosting with cake" as he called it!  LOL.


It is going to be an adjustment for all of us, but we are a "tight-knit" bunch, so I know we'll be just fine!


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  1. AnonymousAugust 22, 2014 at 2:30 PM

    Well said, Cathy. Change is difficult, but necessary and happens all the time with or without imput from those affected. You are lucky to have such a supportive family. Blessings to you all, Love, Auntie

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