Caught Off-Guard, Part Two

My last post was about someone I didn't know who said something that I considered out-of-line and offensive. Well, this post is about someone that I have known a very long time saying something that was really hurtful in regards to myself and Lauren.  Again, I "shut down" and didn't know how to respond.  After I hung up the phone with this person, I was really upset.  It took me a little while to calm myself down.  I guess this person thought that he was being funny, but it definitely wasn't.  I have considered him to be like the older brother that I never had.  It has really made me seriously rethink if I even want to remain friends with him.  When you have someone that you have known a long time say something incredibly offensive, do you tell them that it really hurt your feelings or do you just move on, like it was never said? I have gone back and forth thinking today about it.  I have gotten over being really ticked about it (that only lasted a little while), but now I'm trying to figure out whether I should say something or not. He is a friend of the hubby's, so I could have him tell him that I was offended by his comments, but I feel like I should be the one to do it.  What's that old saying? Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me?  Well, I'm here to say that words do hurt!!  What about you? would you confront the person and tell them how it hurt your feelings? or would you just let it go?  I would love to hear!